If an elderly relative fails basic questions like Who is presently in Parliament, Whats the Queens name, How old are you, Where do you live, What have you just eaten, when the hospital psychiatrist finally decides he has dementia the elderly relative because of his mental well-being and health that it would be best he went into a home as needs 24 hour care and can’t live on his own, the last thing a family who are then stressed and very upset expect is the Social Services to say ”Because he doesn’t own any property nor has any saving were not going to put him in a care home but let him return to his home because its cheaper for us ”.
Danny Hughes from West Midlands, served in the Welsh Fusiliers, and fought in The Korean War. Danny has worked all his life never taking hand outs from the social, living in his home for over 50 years with his wife Jackie who died 2008 she worked hard at St Mathew’s Mental Asylum, bringing up 2 children Madeleine and Eric both working hard never asking for hand outs from Social. After Danny become a widow he unfortunaly had a stroke brought on from a broken heart from loosing his soul mate, they were together over 60 years. Danny could still look after himself, got into a routine daily visiting his wife, attending to his garden but always keeping active. Until recently when his condition virtually over night changed him, speaking of yesterday memories which to him was today, becoming very confused forgetting simple things we all take for granted.
Now at an age where he needs help from Social Services after paying his N.I all his life without a day off and never missing his rent to the Council they are now prepared to put his health and safety at risk just because he has no savings or own his own home – Why?
Madeleine Hughes lost her brother Eric, aged 47 a couple of years ago leaving it to her and her husband to fight her dads case, which is hard and very stressful especially living miles away in Lancashire.
Madeleine Hughes said:
I have asked Walsall Social Services who will be to blame in there department if my Dad wanders off once released from the Manor Hospital as he’s unaware he has an illness and will automatically get into his car to visit his wife at the crematorium which he has done every day since she has died and will probably forget where he is going or where he lives to return home. Who in the Social Service will take the blame if my Dad forget he has left the gas on or something is in the oven and there is a fire, or he walks out the door and gets knocked down …. but social services will not reply to this and have instead just said because he has no savings the cheapest way for them is for my dad to return back to his home and they will TRY to arrange a home visit.
If all this mess isn’t bad enough due to Danny’s condition any junk post off Readers Digest he once trashed he now reply to as they prey on the elderly offering special offers on books, CDs and much more, telling him to buy as he will win holidays and money. Madeleine Hughes only became aware of this when Danny was taken into hospital recently and shocked to see the amount of books he has brought and wasted money he doesn’t have in the hope he will win a holiday for him and his loved ones.
I called Readers Digest explained he lives on his own in his 80’s and is really ill, so believes the lies they write to him with and was shocked the amount of money he has spent with them, money he doesn’t really have. They cancelled his membership but said once he receives a leaflet and replys his membership will automatically be activated again. But there leaflets daily come through his door.
The term ‘dementia’ describes a set of symptoms which include loss of memory, mood changes, and problems with communication and reasoning. These symptoms occur when the brain is damaged by certain diseases, including Alzheimer’s disease and damage caused by a series of small strokes.
You work hard all your life, never ask for handouts as think its wrong, pay into the system, whilst others constantly don’t think twice to see what the Government can give them – then when you need help the most they don’t give you dignity in dementia – Social Service bow your heads in shame.
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