Words Can Hurt as Much as Sticks and Stones

privacy on internetJust as the digital age has ushered in new ways of enhancing human connection, it’s also opened up the scope and range of social rejection. Unfriend—as in, un-Facebook ‘friend’ — was the word of the year in 2009, joining its older cohort “cyberbully,” amid the advent of the text breakup or the Facebook status change as ways to tell him or her that it’s over.

With the yin and yang of digital life in mind, it seems relevant to explore what science knows about emotional pain and its connection to the physical kind.

Language has always mirrored the connection between the two: we suffer from “broken hearts” as well as bones, and speak of “bruised feelings” along with toes. This all seems intuitively right because we recognize the common basis of the pain we experience, whether a throbbing headache or the pain of missing someone so much that you ache. Is there anyone out there who actually believes the line, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never harm me”? I somehow doubt it, but now science has a bead on the literal harm that words inflict.

Human beings don’t thrive going it alone the way snakes do. Just as physical pain signals us that we must withdraw from or flee from something that is hurting us in order to survive, so too does the loneliness we feel in isolation or the anxiety induced by abandonment reinforces us to seek out and maintain social connections.

While both physical and emotional pain both “hurt,” they seem, on the surface at least, to do so in different ways, right? Well, maybe not as much as we might think. While it’s true that slicing your finger instead of the onion on the cutting board is one kind of experience and being dumped by someone you love is another, there’s evidence that they have more in common than not.

Of course, it certainly doesn’t feel like an advantage, evolutionary or otherwise, when you’re in the throes of emotional devastation the moment you hear that your ex is madly in love, blissed to the max, and about to get married, when your close friend cuts you off with nary a word of explanation, or at the moment your mother, who never has anything nice to say about you, tells you once again that you’re a horrible disappointment.

Just because we can’t see the wounds doesn’t mean they aren’t literally and physically there.

Teenage Cancer Fundraiser Stephen Sutton, Who Raised More Than £3m via Social Media, Has Died Aged 19

Teenage cancer fundraiser Stephen Sutton, who raised more than £3m via social media, has died aged 19.

Stephen was admitted to hospital at the weekend with breathing difficulties. On Tuesday his family said they had been told the breathlessness was due to the regrowth of tumours that were blocking the teenager’s airways and said his condition had deteriorated in the last 24 hours.

Posting on the teenager’s Facebook blog, his family said:

“Hi everyone, this is Stephen’s family. Unfortunately in the last 24 hours Stephen’s condition has deteriorated to where he can no longer communicate through this page himself. Unfortunately the breathlessness which had him re-admitted to hospital is due to the regrowth of tumours which are blocking his airways, and not just due to infection as we had all been hoping.

“He is currently comfortable and stable, and we will let you know of any further developments. Right now however, as a family, we wish for a certain amount of privacy for us to spend what time he has remaining with him. We appreciate everyone’s concern, and for all the love and goodwill sent his way, and indeed ours too, we thank you deeply x.”

But Today His heart broken Mom put this message on Stephens facebook page

My heart is bursting with pride but breaking with pain for my courageous, selfless, inspirational son who passed away peacefully in his sleep in the early hours of this morning, Wednesday 14th May.

The ongoing support and outpouring of love for Stephen will help greatly at this difficult time, in the same way as it helped Stephen throughout his journey. We all know he will never be forgotten, his spirit will live on, in all that he achieved and shared with so many.

Love,
His mom x

Teenager With Terminal Cancer Raised £1m For Charity Posted a Final Message To His Followers

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On Twitter David Cameron Said: I’m deeply saddened to hear that Stephen Sutton has died. His spirit, bravery and fundraising for cancer research were all an inspiration.

Teenager With Terminal Cancer Raised £1m For Charity Posted a Final Message To His Followers

Stephen Sutton, 19, from Burntwood, in Staffordshire, was diagnosed with bowel cancer aged 15 and started raising funds for the Teenage Cancer Trust.

He posted on Facebook:

“It’s a final thumbs up from me! I think this is just one hurdle too far. Reacting to news that the total had passed £1m, Stephen tweeted “thank you all so much”. The whole situation is just breathtaking in many ways!!”

Dozens of people responded with their congratulations, including one who described Stephen as a “true inspiration”, while another said he had “changed thousands of people’s lives”. A day earlier he told his thousands of friends and followers on Facebook that it would be his last post and any further updates would be from family members.

He wrote:

“It’s a shame the end has come so suddenly. There’s so many people I haven’t got round to properly thank or say goodbye to. Apologies for that. I will continue fighting for as long as I can, and whatever happens next I want you all to know I am currently in a good place mentally and at ease with the situation. That’s it from me. But life has been good. Very good.”

Tuesday’s messages prompted people to pledge more than £250,000 overnight with a further £200,000 coming in on Wednesday morning. Stephen used a bucket list featuring things he wanted to accomplish before he died to help raise funds and give other people the motivation to “enjoy life”. It included playing the drums in front of 90,000 people, hugging an elephant and getting a tattoo.

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Warning ‘Heartbleed Bug’ – Public Urged To Reset All Passwords

OpenSSL-HeartBleed-BugA flaw has been discovered in an encryption method used on about two-thirds of all websites, including Google, Amazon, Yahoo and Facebook, potentially exposing web traffic, user data and stored content to cyber criminals.

The “heartbleed bug” was found in the OpenSSL software by a team of security engineers last week, leaving technology companies scrambling to fix their systems before it was announced on Monday night.
A newly discovered bug in widely used Web encryption technology has made data on many of the world’s major websites vulnerable to theft by hackers in what experts say is one of the most serious security flaws uncovered in recent years.

Bugs in single software or library come and go and are fixed by new versions. However this bug has left large amount of private keys and other secrets exposed to the Internet. Considering the long exposure, ease of exploitation and attacks leaving no trace this exposure should be taken seriously.

Updates are already available to address the vulnerability in OpenSSL, which could enable remote attackers to access sensitive data including passwords and secret keys that can decode traffic as it travels across the Internet. Computer security experts warned that means victims cannot tell if their data has been accessed which is troubling because the bug has existed for about two years.

Google said it had fixed the flaw in key Google services and Facebook said it had added protections before the issue was publicly disclosed. Amazon Web Services, whose clients include sites from Netflix to Unilever, said it had applied “mitigations” so customers did not need to act. Yahoo said it had “made the appropriate corrections” to its main properties and was working to fix its other sites.

But even those who fix the software cannot necessarily see if a hacker has already used the vulnerability to access their systems. Netcraft, which monitors what code is used in each site, said more than half a million trusted websites were vulnerable to the bug.

You can read more about Heartbleed Bug on there website >> Heartbleed.com

Twitter and Facebook should introduce warnings over the drinking game Neknominate

Twitter and Facebook should introduce warnings over the drinking game Neknominate, which has been linked to several deaths, councils have said.

The Local Government Association (LGA), which represents almost 400 councils in England and Wales, said prominent messages were needed on the websites about the dangers of the craze.

Neknominate involves people filming themselves downing alcohol, nominating someone to continue the game, and posting the video on social media sites.

Councils are now publishing warnings about alcohol through internet safety campaigns that provide links for parents, carers and young people.

The LGA said some schools had asked for warning notices about Neknominate to be put on noticeboards and read out at assemblies.

On Wednesday, the industry-funded charity Drinkaware called on parents to take a tough stance against the game over fears that young teenagers are under pressure to take part.

Katie Hall, chair of the LGA’s community wellbeing board, said:

“This is an utterly reckless and totally irresponsible craze which has tragically claimed lives. More should be done to highlight the dangers and persuade people not to participate.

“We believe social media operators have a responsibility to provide health warnings to user groups and individuals.

“The LGA is looking for these corporations to show leadership and not ignore what is happening on their sites.

“We are urging Facebook and Twitter executives to sit down with us and discuss a way forward which tackles this issue head-on.”

The LGA said Boston Borough Council in Lincolnshire is encouraging those people nominated to continue the drinking game to contact their community safety team.

Sevenoaks District Council in Kent is launching an internet safety campaign on Neknominate, while Worcestershire County Council has called for people not to join in.

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Social Media – Pros & Cons

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It’s sad how some have become so disconnected to reality, spending more time with their gadgets than those we love

It’s sad how some have become so disconnected to reality, they spend more time with their gadgets than those who love them.
We live a virtual life and wonder

WHY WE ARE EMPTY.

So many waste their entire lives partying away, believing that’s the best life has to offer, because it’s not. There is so much more on the ground then getting high.

Greater peace in being real than fake, trying to be cool and being something we are not.

Stop being what the media wants you to be.

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