Words Can Hurt as Much as Sticks and Stones

privacy on internetJust as the digital age has ushered in new ways of enhancing human connection, it’s also opened up the scope and range of social rejection. Unfriend—as in, un-Facebook ‘friend’ — was the word of the year in 2009, joining its older cohort “cyberbully,” amid the advent of the text breakup or the Facebook status change as ways to tell him or her that it’s over.

With the yin and yang of digital life in mind, it seems relevant to explore what science knows about emotional pain and its connection to the physical kind.

Language has always mirrored the connection between the two: we suffer from “broken hearts” as well as bones, and speak of “bruised feelings” along with toes. This all seems intuitively right because we recognize the common basis of the pain we experience, whether a throbbing headache or the pain of missing someone so much that you ache. Is there anyone out there who actually believes the line, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never harm me”? I somehow doubt it, but now science has a bead on the literal harm that words inflict.

Human beings don’t thrive going it alone the way snakes do. Just as physical pain signals us that we must withdraw from or flee from something that is hurting us in order to survive, so too does the loneliness we feel in isolation or the anxiety induced by abandonment reinforces us to seek out and maintain social connections.

While both physical and emotional pain both “hurt,” they seem, on the surface at least, to do so in different ways, right? Well, maybe not as much as we might think. While it’s true that slicing your finger instead of the onion on the cutting board is one kind of experience and being dumped by someone you love is another, there’s evidence that they have more in common than not.

Of course, it certainly doesn’t feel like an advantage, evolutionary or otherwise, when you’re in the throes of emotional devastation the moment you hear that your ex is madly in love, blissed to the max, and about to get married, when your close friend cuts you off with nary a word of explanation, or at the moment your mother, who never has anything nice to say about you, tells you once again that you’re a horrible disappointment.

Just because we can’t see the wounds doesn’t mean they aren’t literally and physically there.

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Shoe Boxes For Our Heroes – Fill Your Shoebox With Love For a Hero

Volunteers have been working tirelessly and will continue to do so to support our troops based in Afghanistan. They work within the strict guidelines of the Ministry of Defence to ensure that they maintain a supportive role as and when needed whilst taking into account the logistical and operational restrictions in place in Afghanistan. Our troops are based out in Afghanistan all year round and with your help we can all support our troops throughout their tour, every single day, all year and not just at Christmas.

Chris’s motivation was to do something to help the soldiers out in theatre in Afghanistan. It wasn’t about agreeing or disagreeing with war he just wanted to send the brave soldiers out there a parcel and a kind message.   After the first parcels went out letters of thanks from the recipients started to arrive and at this point Chris knew he wanted to continue with this work

Chris Webster said:

I am ex Royal army medical corp TA had friends who served and sent boxes too so gave us the idea. We have now been going 3 years and sent almost 6000 parcels. I have a team of about 20 senders dotted about the uk and an admin team who help run the page, they all work very hard.

With good support from people over the uk, we at shoeboxes along with people fill boxes up with goodies for our troops overseas we like to put a smile on their faces just a small gesture from the good people of Blighty.

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Shift Patterns ‘Force Police to Sleep on Streets’

Working as a police officer brings on a range of emotions.  It can leave you feeling satisfied, rewarded, sad, disgruntled, lonely and fulfilled, all in the same shift.  If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to work in law enforcement

baby asleep in police helmetChanges to working patterns mean some officers are resorting to sleeping on the streets because they have no means of getting home to bed after finishing late shifts, a Police Federation official has warned.

Deputy General Secretary of the Metropolitan Police Federation Dennis Weeks said officers were bedding down on benches, under bridges and in train stations after finishing shifts in the early hours of the morning after trains had stopped running.

“Officers are not allowed to sleep in police stations, so they are going to train stations and sleeping there or on benches near the station so that as soon as the first train leaves they can go home,” he said. “It makes them vulnerable to being criminally assaulted, the impact on their health is extremely bad and bad weather can make it difficult.

“An officer might end up finishing at 1am and missing the late train, meaning they cannot get home because night buses only go within London. There used to be police section houses with accommodation for officers all over London, but now there is just one.”

Westminster, Camden and Kensington and Chelsea are among the boroughs where the problem is most acute. Asked whether any off duty officers found sleeping rough had been moved on by their on duty colleagues, Mr Weeks said:

“Our people can be moved on from places the same as anyone else.”



A police officer posed his newborn baby daughter enjoying a snooze – in his helmet.
PC Andy Ross popped four-day-old Isla in the hat and he admits the beauty of the photo made him emotional.
Andy, who has been a policeman for West Midlands Police for six years, also has an 18-month-old son.As the youngster snoozed the helmet was propped up by several cans of beans and she was placed in the blanket while she had an afternoon nap.

The officer, from Warwickshire, had the photo taken last March by photographer Bethany Anne Smith in her studio in Bedworth.

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Man Lands on Moon 45 years ago Today –

A record 500 million television viewers worldwide watched Neil Armstrong take mankind’s first steps onto the moon, on July 20, 1969. The mission though, looked as if it might end before Armstrong even took that “one small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.” As Armstrong and Edwin “Buzz” Aldrin sought their landing site, alarms sounded in the Lunar Module Eagle.

“One small step for man, one giant leap for mankind.” That sentence, uttered by NASA astronaut Neil Armstrong from the surface of the moon 45 years ago, signaled the dawn of a new age.

This month marks the 45th anniversary of the epic Apollo 11 flight that landed the first humans on the moon and safely returned them to Earth. Armstrong, Buzz Aldrin and Michael Collins launched from Florida on July 16, 1969. Armstrong and Aldrin ventured out onto the lunar surface on July 20, 1969. The two men spent 21.5 hours on the moon before taking off from the lunar surface to meet up with Collins in the command module and fly back to Earth. [NASA's 17 Apollo Moon Missions in Pictures]

NASA astronauts returned to the surface of the moon on multiple missions, however, no human has touched down on the natural satellite’s surface since 1972. Space.com’s complete coverage of the 45th anniversary of the Apollo 11 moon landing appears below:
No one really knew exactly where they’d touched down, so the Mapping Sciences’ Laboratory staff at Houston’s Manned Spacecraft Center began poring over maps, “First On the Moon” stated. Before long, the staff pinpointed the Sea of Tranquility.

Photo of Neil Armstrong, July 1969, in space suit with the helmet off.

Rockford Files and Maverick star James Garner dies aged 86

US army veteran was injured twice during Korean War before finding fame as an actor and starring on the small screen as well as in films such as The Great Escape. He was found dead at his home in Los Angeles on Saturday evening. No immediate cause of death is available.

A dashing, dark-haired and dark-eyed figure with a sly sense of humor, Garner played private investigator Jim Rockford from 1974 to 1980. He came back to play the character in several TV movies in the 1990s.

He had already achieved stardom as the gun-slinging Bret Maverick from 1957-1960, and reprised that cowboy character in the 1980s.

In a movie version of the show in 1994, Garner had a cameo role with Mel Gibson playing the title character.

Garner was unusual for being successful in both film and television. He starred in more than 50 films, including The Great Escape and Murphy’s Romance in 1985, for which he received an Academy Award nomination.

How will you remember James Garner


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